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A YEAR HAS COME…A YEAR HAS GONE (POEM )
The most positive men are the most credulous. Jonathan Swift “Five…four…three…two…one…Happy New Year!”New Year’s.Eve”: The mother of all anchors. For many people, it’s an opportunity to remember the things they most want to forget. But Its also a time for endings and new beginnings; for moving away from things gone awry. It’s a time for learning…
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HOW TO LOSE THE DRIVE TO NOT DRIVE
Fall for many people stands for a new beginning; a harbinger of things to come. Hot cider and donuts. Pumpkins and colorful decorations. Football. The holidays. Others, however, are anchored quite differently to the trumpets of fall: Cold, damp weather, driving. Wet leaves, driving. Snow and ice, driving. Does the anticipation of driving on slippery…
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ON CHOOSING TO DECIDE
“Should I buy a new car, or go to Bermuda? Should I buy a motorcycle instead? Green or Blue? These things are very costly. I need more income. Should I ask for a raise, or take a second job? What approach should I use in asking for a raise? Direct? Indirect? Gee, this is very…
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PARENTING ELDERLY PARENTS: ASSISTANCE WITH DIGNITY
Stan B., married and a father of two teenage children, was in a meeting at work when the call came. His father, retired and seventy-nine years old, had fallen down the basement stairs again, this time breaking his leg in two places. Stan’s mother, frantically related the story to his wife, Diane, who then phoned…
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How to Make Your Heart Grow Fondness—And Improve Your Health: Part 2
How to Make Your Heart Grow Fondness—And Improve Your Health: Part 2 Randy W, Green, Ph.D. It is through gratitude for the present moment that the spiritual dimension of life opens up. Eckhart Tolle Recall from “Part 1,” that the smooth heart rhythm, measured by heart-rate variability (HRV), is what scientists call a…
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FEELING GUILTY? SHAME ON YOU!
I would like to speak frankly about a very intimate part of you in charge of “feeling guilty.” In most cases, it is an unconscious part. Therefore, you are probably unaware of its existence. No wonder it is often an uncomfortable topic to talk about! <?xml:namespace prefix = o /> <?xml:namespace prefix = u1 /> However,…
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MOTHER ALWAYS LOVED YOU BEST!
“My brother, Tom, and I get along fine when we are alone or together with our wives. But I dread semi-annual family gatherings, with all the hidden agendas operating. I guess putting my parents, Tom, my other brother Harold, my sister Sara and I in the same pot creates a volatile mixture!” Jenny, a single…
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THE ASSERTIVE OPTION: ON BEING SEEN AND HEARD- PART 2
Joan felt that her husband, Craig, criticized her cooking too much. Unfortunately, she also felt it was not “nice” to argue and that to do so would make her seem defensive and foolish. Instead, she preferred to remain under-assertive; a martyr to be pitied. That is, until she learned an assertive pattern for getting what…
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LIFE AS A PAWN
Once, not long ago, a child in Cuba—like so many children—interacted with family members, learned about the world as much as any six year-old could and played with friends. His life was likely similar to other children in his culture. Which in some ways may have been different from six year-old children in this country.…
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HO-HO-HUM-DRUM
“The fire which seems extinguished often slumbers beneath the ashes.” Pierre Cornielle It happens every year. The holiday fanfare: Everywhere there are colorful lights, crowds of smiling people shopping to the tunes of Holiday cheer, memorable gatherings with intimate friends set against a backdrop of brisk, snowy weather. “Currier and Ives” time; light…
