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QUESTIONS
“Why do I have to continuously remind you to take out the garbage on Tuesday nights?” <?xml:namespace prefix = o /> “Fran, why wasn’t I informed that the Fisher case had been adjourned? I was just leaving for court.” “Matt, how come you didn’t have your mother sign this report card?” “Jimmy, why didn’t you clean…
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HOW TO DECIDE IN YOUR FAVOR
I’ll go– no, wait! Maybe I should stay. But what if I miss something important? I better go. Except, what if nothing important occurs and I’m bored? I dread being bored. Time just drags on– it’s agony! Better to not be bored than to avoid missing something. Besides, I probably won’t miss anything by staying…right?”…
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TURN CRISIS INTO MIDLIFE OPPORTUNITY!
“…in Chinese the word crisis is composed of two characters. One represents danger and the other represents opportunity.” John F. Kennedy “There can’t be a crisis next week, my schedule is already full.” Henry Kissinger What is, “midlife?” And when is it a “crisis?” Most of us have heard of it. We know how to…
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POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM: YOUR FIRST LOVE AFFAIR
During the course of our lives we select from among many choices in the process of deciding and evaluating. But among those decisions and evaluations, there are none more important than the ones we make about ourselves. The criteria by which we self-evaluate directly influence our values, the goals we set, and how specifically we…
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PARENTING ADULT CHILDREN: THE CHALLENGE OF ACCEPTANCE
When is your child not your “child?” Children test this question frequently at different stages of development. During the early stages of emancipation, for example, when they want an increase in allowance; or the privilege of staying up later. How many parents have experienced the role of camouflaged escort? Such as taking your son to…
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How To Make Love Stay
How To Make Love Stay… Randy W. Green, Ph.D. An attorney known for his ability to forecast marital statistics about as accurately as weather, recently stated that six of every ten marriages this decade will end in divorce (truly a “winter” forecast). While it may be tempting to write this off as one of Mother…
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LIVING IN HARMONY WITH YOURSELF THROUGH RATIONAL THINKING- PART 2
Bruce hated his work as Operations Officer at a large bank. He especially disliked the staid, reserved image he felt compelled to project. However, he lived by the assumption that, “in order to be accepted by my father, I must live up to the ‘perfect banker’ standard he established.” Failure to do so, he reasoned…
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”BUT OFFICER…”
Excuses, excuses. What would life be like without them? In some societies, excusing oneself is considered, “being polite.” In others, it is more popularly known as, “being defensive.” People often find it necessary to excuse their behavior as a function of how they perceive themselves in situations that have invited (or inevitably will invite) criticism.…
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HELPING THE ”BORED-OF-EDUCATION” MEET SUCCESS
“How could youths better learn to live than by at once trying the experiment of living?” Henry David Thoreau The day they had been anticipating has finally arrived. They tracked it for weeks—talked about it with classmates. Gleefully, they announced it’s imminent arrival to their parents, as if a harbinger of what was soon…
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HOW TO CREATE A SILK PURSE
“Good breeding consists in concealing how much we think of ourselves and how little we think of the other person.” Mark Twain Jonathan was precocious for a three year-old. He amazed adults with his conversation and acquired skills. He also frequently said whatever was on his mind; and that day at the shoe store was…
