Articles
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ON SETTING GOALS
Marc O. would like to be a lawyer; or a doctor; or a sales- man. He can’t decide in exactly what direction to head, so he works at a job he dislikes with the feeling that– at 35 years old– time is running out. <?xml:namespace prefix = o /> Cynthia J., having been married and childless…
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”WHO’S IN CHARGE HERE?”
That’s what I’d like to know. Sound familiar? Parents and teachers often ask themselves this question when they feel at a loss to effectively discipline children. The difficulty lies in how discipline is most often expedited: Punishment. When it comes to consequanting behavior, punishment is the overwhelming favorite in our society. In contrast with reward:…
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LOVE MEANS SOMETIMES HAVING TO SAY, ”I’M SORRY”
Faux pas. We all commit them. Sometimes they occur as conscious transgressions– comments or behavior of which an individual is aware but for which there is little remorse or “ownership”. And for which an apology is not likely. One behaving in this manner is said to be rude. Then there is the more predominant class…
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THE WAITING ROOM
<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = “urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office” /> The Waiting Room. It could be any room in the house. It could be an internal picture of a dark, empty room; or it may not be a room at all. Sometimes it’s a recurrent lump in your throat; a failure to get a grip…
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Anger Management
So the question is this: Do you want to learn how to “manage” or “tame” your anger, or would you rather learn how to have a response other than an angry one in tense situations? You see, in order to be able to manage anger, what must be there first? Of course… anger! “Anger” doesn’t…
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TO HAVE A CHANGE OF HEART…
There have been several requests for more information about a recent article concerning stress, diet, the onset of deadly diseases and prevent- ive health care. The following may shed additional light upon this timely topic. For further discussion, I invite my readers to email me at the add- ress below, or visit me next Thursday…
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A NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION: CREATE NEW MEANINGS
Karen was a successful boutique manager. Her husband and children seemed quite content in their well-organized home. Neighbors, friends and customers thought she was, “Superb… so talented.” Yet Karen allowed herself to become depressed, feeling that for the most part, life had no meaning. Why? Jonah had been a “triple-A” baseball player, widely recognized for…
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ON MIXING OIL AND VINEGAR…
“What passes for woman’s intuition is often nothing more than man’stransparency.” George Jean Nathan They say, “opposites attract.” But for what purpose? Often, the the ways men and women differ is the magnetism between them. But no sooner does each fall in love with someone “different” than he (she) tries to make the other more…
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HOW TO CONQUER SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS
The centipede was happy, quite until the toad in fun said, “Pray, which foot comes after which?” This worked his mind to such a pitch; he lay distracted in a ditch, considering how to run. A self-conscious centipede is funny– a self-conscious human being is in pain. Self-consciousness can make friendships stilted, jobs less…
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THE PERSONALITY SUPERMARKET
“Look at that stone-face. He must be a great poker player. No, he just lacks a personality.” “Stay away from him, Nancy. He has a rotten personality.” “What’s she look like, Bob? Well…she has a nice personality.” People often relate to a personality as if it were a bodily entity. Then “causality” is assigned. For…
