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INTIMACY: A SPECIAL KIND OF CLOSE ENCOUNTER
Intimacy refers to a way of relating with another in which sensory-based experiences and understandings about themselves are shared. It usually accompanies voluntary exposure of private thoughts and behaviors, presupposing tremendous feelings of “trust” and “caring.” Thus, for most people, this sort of experience involves considerable emotional risk. In Erik Erickson’s (1963) theory of psychosocial…
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FLEXIBILITY: THE ROAD TO EXCELLENCE
“Few things are harder to put up with than the annoyance of a good example.” Mark Twain Excellence requires work; motivation. And motivation is often generated by intense curiosity. Can you remember a time in your life when you were intensely curious? Make yourselves comfortable… During the first few years of grammar school,…
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STRIKING AT THE HEART OF THE MATTER
Occasionally, people wonder why a psychologist sometimes writes about things having to do with the body; as opposed to those of the mind. “What does a psychologist know about good health?” It is reasoned. More than likely, none of these people have ever observed an “on-call” physician eating dinner. Nevertheless, there are those who frequently…
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BUSINESS AND INDUSTRY MAGAZINE: ”Q-A” FORMAT 1.
For someone who has been unemployed for many months or even years, what advice do you have to inspire that individual to take advantage of the opportunities coming to the region? The job market has been nothing short of a jungle. A perilous unknown, thick with overwhelming competition and the smell of fear. Those who…
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ALL IN THE FAMILY
Did you ever know someone who was a real “character?” The term is almost indefinable, yet people often use it to describe someone who possesses the ability to stand out in some way. Perhaps its his tone of voice or relentless “gift of gab” that is more like a curse than a gift. Or rather…
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CO-DEPENDENCY: DERIVING STRENGTH FROM WEAKNESS
The concept, “co-dependency”, emerged from the study and treatment of substance abuse (including alcohol) and its effects on family members. It is a term referring, in the pathological sense, to a dysfunctional and progressive life- pattern in which one’s attention is excessively focused on the addictive behavior of another person. The alcoholic individual becomes a…
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FEEL ASHAMED? TRY A ”FACE-LIFT”
“We live in an atmosphere of shame. We are ashamed of everything that is real to us…” George Bernard Shaw Remember the story of “The Ugly Duckling”, by Hans Christian Anderson? Believing himself unattractive and unwanted, he waddled through town, wallowing in his own shame, until something changed all that… Sally possessed excellent keyboarding skills.…
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OF LOST FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS…
As our lives progress, time flows and a lot of water passes under the bridge, that we often forget the past when our differences with a significant family member were a mere gully between two shores. That which is “now” seems as if it always was a…distant, silent tense. The tides of discontent continue to…
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TO TELL A TALL TALE
Remember Pinocchio? Every time he would tell a “tall tale”, his nose would grow longer. New Year’s Eve seems to be an opportune time for a nose job.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = “urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office” /> Every year this decade, at precisely ten minutes to twelve on New Year’s Eve, Marc has promised that he…
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THE ART OF ASKING FOR FAVORS
Have you ever noticed how children waste no time asking for those things they want? <?xml:namespace prefix = o /> “Ma, can I have a cookie?” “Ma, can Perry sleep-over?” “Dad, can I have ten dollars? Well, how about just one.?” At this point, you may find yourself telling your child, “Why is it you never…
