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PULLING THE COVERS OFF ”BLANKET” CRITICISM
“You never get to the point? You’re always rambling on. Can’t you ever get your act together?” “You are always late. You’ll probably be late for your own funeral!” Criticism! The very sound of the word can cause heads to lower, defenses to mobilize. It is uncanny how the very same organ which offers solace…
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HOW TO RESCUE YOURSELF
“It’s like being on a skate board rolling down a mountain of greased glass– I’m not living life. It’s living me!” <?xml:namespace prefix = o /> This is a typical comment from someone who believed herself a victim of circumstances. Most of us have slid down that greased glass mountain at one time or another. Bad…
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GETTING IN SHAPE WITH BEHAVIOR MOD
<?xml:namespace prefix = o /> “We are controlled by the world in which we live… The question is this: Are we to be controlled by accidents…or by ourselves in an effective cultural design?” B. F. Skinner Most people are familiar with the term, Behavior Modification. Some have inquired about it’s meaning and applications. Several decades…
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LIVING IN HARMONY WITH YOUR TEENAGER
How many of you have teenage children? How many of you with teenage children understand them? How many of you believe your teenage children would say they understand you? If you raised your hand to all three questions, just bypass the remainder of this article and consider how you could share your wisdon with others. However,…
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NEW RELATIONSHIP? BETTER PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD
Congratulations! You have just made a major decision. A buying decision. That’s right. When you think about it, choosing to relate to someone new is really just an- other buying decision. People make buying decisions regularly: A new home, car, parakeet; a change in diet, shampoo, personal exercise regimen. Curiously, most people devote more time…
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SETTING PRIORITIES: Putting The Egg Before The Chicken
Remember when you were a child and confused about the order in which to do something? Remember feeling even more confused when some wise adult said, “Well, what comes first, the chicken or the egg?” Actually, while the question generates answers that are somewhat paradoxical (seem both true and self-contradictory), it relates to an important…
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HOW TO BE A BREADWINNER…
The family “breadwinner.” Most families have one. Some have two! The term carries a certain degree of status: A responsible job; the family provider; an example to be modeled by children. This status also carries certain fringe benefits. One of these includes the right to complain about how unhappy you are being a breadwinner! In…
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SETTING THE BAR TOO HIGH
“You’ve no idea what a poor opinion I have of myself– and how little I deserve it.” William Gilbert Have you ever watched an Olympic pole-vaulter? After successfully hurdling the bar at a certain level, how does an athlete determine the level at which to raise it next time? What drives him to make that…
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HAD A BELLYFUL OF LIFE’S BURDENS? TRY A HOBBIES DIET
For weeks now, Dan could be seen jogging into the office, smiling, joking with the secretaries, polite to his superiors, and producing voluminous quantities of account material, ready for layout. An advertising man, he knows that he doesn’t know when the magic will strike, but is apparently open–day and night– to being struck by the…
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TEACH YOUR CHILD CAUTION WITHOUT FEAR
“It’s ten o’clock. Do you know where your children are?” Most parents do…but look anyway. How many times have you, as a parent, seen the missing child advertisement on the side of a milk carton, felt sympathy for the mother of that child, then a sigh of relief that yours is okay? Many parents– especially…
